Archives For Complementarity

I came across this video on The Gospel Coalition website that I think is very important. It is important for the content, and the truths presented here, but also due to the background of the individuals having the conversation.

For those who aren’t familiar with the speakers, let me provide a quick primer.

Jackie Hill Perry is known for her career as a hip hop artist. Growing up Jackie¬†didn’t live with her father, and was sexually abused as a very young child. She has been very open concerning her struggles with gender dysphoria from childhood, as well as her past in lesbian relationships, drugs and pornography. She turned to Christ in 2008 and has since been regular participant¬†in the ministry of reconciliation for those who experience same sex attraction. She is now married.

Sam Allberry is the author of Is God anti-gay. Allberry is open about his struggles with same sex attraction, and has chosen to walk in obedience to Christ by remaining celibate. He is also a minister in the UK and founder of Living Out, a ministry dedicated to assisting Christians who struggle with same sex attraction to stay faithful to what the Bible teaches concerning sexuality,as well as to helping churches better minister to them. You can learn more about Sam at the Living Out website.

Rosaria Butterfield is a former tenured professor who specialized in women’s studies, and was a dedicated feminist and LGBT activist. Rosaria was also a lesbian. After being befriended by a pastor and his wife, Rosaria began to question her lifestyle and was drawn to Christ through their friendship. Eventually Rosaria would leave her career, her lifestyle, and embrace life with Christ. She is now married to a Presbyterian pastor, and lives with her family in North Carolina. Along with being a pastor’s wife, she is now a mom, a home-schooler, an author, and a noted speaker.

Their varied backgrounds and experiences are why I think they speak so powerfully to the beauty of complementarity. These are not intellectual weaklings. They are individuals who have suffered and lost much. Yet, they can see the beauty of God’s design for the family, and human sexuality. Though all institutions that are practiced by humans have the opportunity for abuse, that does not discount that when done well, and done in a God-honoring way, complementarity is a beautiful life.

This video is also a challenge to men to remember that the way they lead their wives and their families is an opportunity to imitate the gracious God who sent His Son to die for us. What grace, what submission, what love, what


For more information on the concept, read this article entitled How Elisabeth Elliot Made Me a Complementarian.

I hope you will watch and enjoy the video.


As always, I’d love to hear your feedback.